Well hi. It’s been a little while. I was going to skulk back in here with a quirky (?) post about self-anthropology, having lifted the idea from the book Tiny Experiments by Anne-Laure Le Cnuff. In an attempt to ‘self-renew,’ the reader is invited to ‘play a game of self-anthropology’, which essentially means making ‘field notes’ during the day to become ‘an active observer’ in your life and to discover interesting patterns in how you go about being, well, human.
However, as the time came around to transcribe my barely legible notes, it was glaringly obvious I needed to scrap my plan and narrow my focus to a singular topic instead of delivering unarguably less critical observations, for instance, that, in a dream the night before, my period arrived early while I was in a town in Norway not serviced by public transport. The imperative topic in question is a GAME-CHANGING podcast called The Neurodivergent Creativeand more specifically, Episode 154: Is Rejection Sensitivity Killing Your Creativity?
I could have easily transcribed and sectioned up the entire episode into indispensable quotes; it’s that profound and relatable. Here are some of the things Fisher said in the episode that struck home for me. I needed to hear this podcast, and I’d bet that at least some of you who stumble across this blog post will need and benefit from hearing it, too. GO FORTH & LISTEN & SHARE.
“Have you ever considered that you are actually insufferable and it’s not the fault of the people around you?”
“Yes, constantly, and letting go of this has given me my life back and it occurs to me now that it is not our job to be sufferable and that indeed we can just live and be whoever we are.”
“I am going to be insufferable. I am going to be so me that if you don’t like it, you should leave. You should block me on every platform. I don’t want you to see my name, ‘cos I’m going to be too busy being myself to give a shit what you think about me and what I should be doing and how palatable and how sufferable I should be.”
“You don’t have to earn being alive.”
“We fear rejection because that makes sense for us…ancestrally, in our DNA as human beings if we got kicked out of the tribe, we’re gonna get eaten by a tiger or something. It was not safe to be rejected. It was not safe to be outside of a community.”
“The vulnerability of rejection feels unsafe and that’s why it hurts.”
“We don’t know that we get to be safe if someone doesn’t like us.”
A Wyrd Of Her Own 